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Gluten Free Happiness?
Something that I increasingly find to be important is happiness.
That may seem obvious. Most people want to be happy. But the reason I’m mentioning it is because focusing on health, even when things are moving in a positive direction, can be stressful.
Often when people are newly gluten-free they focus on what they can’t eat any more. They worry about reacting to what they’re served by restaurants, co-workers, friends and relatives. They think and wonder and fret about what they have to do to treat the health problems that they have thanks to gluten intolerance.
Some of this is necessary. There’s a lot to learn about going gluten-free. To be the healthiest possible, a person might have to change other elements of their diet and life too.
Eventually, when a person has their diet and supplements, etc. “down” so the new way of eating feels natural and any changes that need to be made after that probably aren’t as radical, they’ll usually feel and think differently. I certainly do. It’s a nice place to be, and one of the perks of being healthier.
On this site, I do my best to give recommendations and resources to reduce the transition stress for people so they can get to the happier place faster.
What makes you happy?
How can you experience that now, or soon, and ideally regularly?
If you’re currently quite ill, and perhaps unable to do some of the things that you love most, then focus on what you can do, not what you’re missing out on right now. It’s also okay to allow yourself to mourn what you can’t do currently or forever, that’s also healthy. Feel sorry for yourself if you need to, intensely if need be, but don’t let that drag out infinitely, it’s important to process that and move on in whatever way that you healthfully can. Talking to people you trust, visiting gluten-free diet forums online and perhaps posting about your experiences anonymously if forum members seem sympathetic, seeing a counsellor and/or calling an anonymous crisis line can be helpful when you’re really struggling.
Having good people in your life is important for health, but it’s good to have a collection of things that you can do and experience that don’t depend mostly on others too.
Here are some of the things that make me happy that don’t require other people. I don’t need lots of energy for two of them, and even when I’m tired I can manage a little of number one usually. I’m not suggesting that you try these things, they may not appeal to you, I’m just sharing them to give you examples of things that don’t require others.
I LOVE to dance! I don’t need anyone to dance with me, I happily dance alone, in my house, to music that I like.
I don’t do it for exercise, even though it can be an excellent workout. I do it because I feel beyond great when I dance.
No food or supplement or drug can give that feeling to me, only dancing.
2. Watching Good Movies from the 40s.
“Good” is a matter of taste, of course.
I’m not a fan of all 40s movies. Also, just because something won an Academy Award and/or is said to be a “classic” doesn’t mean I, or you, will like it. Some films don’t hold up thanks to big changes in culture and values. And frankly, some of them are atrociously awful. If a film is so bad that it’s funny, great, but if not, no thanks. :)
I like the fun snappiness, shrewdness, awareness of the darker emotions in humans and heart that many good films from the 40s have.
I watched a late 40s film that I had never heard of before. I was feeling really low that day but this film made me smile and I laughed out loud a few times. It’s a Christmas themed film that was probably eclipsed by another Christmas themed film from the same era (It’s a Wonderful Life, 1946).
The film is Holiday Affair (1949) starring Robert Mitchum, Janet Leigh, Wendell Corey and Gordon Gebert.
Holiday Affair (1949)
God is that a stupid poster. Don’t judge this film based on the poster. :) Also, in NO part of this film does Janet Leigh’s character dress like that. But she is truly lovely in this film. Very young too. The film was made more than ten years before her most famous role in Psycho. If you watch it, note how small her waist is. Sure, women wore girdles back then, but even so, it’s tiny.
Gordon Gebert, who plays Janet Leigh’s character’s young son, acts and sounds like a real child. This isn’t the standard stilted overly sweet or smart alecky characterization you often see in Hollywood films of any era.
3. Art Nouveau
I love Art Nouveau. My home’s decor is more Arts & Crafts influenced, but I get a lot of pleasure from looking at things that are Art Nouveau style, often on Etsy.com and Pinterest. Looking at things that you find beautiful, whatever they are, can be very therapeutic.
I have this ceramic trivet from The Art Nouveau Shop:
It was created from a photograph of an original Victorian Art Nouveau ceramic tile.
Looking at my trivet, and using it with my various gluten-free hot meals and drinks, makes me smile.
It doesn’t have to cost much to have nice things that are to your taste, if money is a concern. For example, there is an artist that I like and her original paintings are beyond my budget but I found high quality greeting cards of her work so I bought a nice yet inexpensive wood frame and framed one of the cards and set that out on a table.
How about you? What makes you happy?